Guest Blogger: Connie Runia, Attorney-At-Law. Boise, Idaho
I’ve had a plan, a vision, a dream about horses since kindergarten.
I wanted to be a cowgirl – and I still do. This dream was captured in countless drawings and in my earliest writings. I had few chances to ride growing up, but took every opportunity that presented itself. My primary experience was a very naughty Shetland owned by some friends. Looking back, it is fortunate I did not get hurt as this grass bellied, barn sour beast did its best to shake us off. I learned that not all horses want to be your friend. I bought my first horse when I was 40. She was a patient old mare who allowed me many rides. I learned that I wanted more. I watched scared beginners on spoiled horses and watched the finely tuned athletes competing at the local rodeo. I learned that people expect different things from horses.
So I read, I watched, I listened and I rode. The thing is, there is no faking it with a horse. It all shows up. There are no shortcuts for time in the saddle and a good horse. The best thing I ever did was to humbly reach out to someone with experience – to select the horse, to watch my rides, to give me instant feedback and advice. I learned that becoming a cowgirl would be a lifelong endeavor – of doing it scared, failing, learning and getting up again. A real cowgirl will never tell you they have arrived.
A few years ago I had another dream – to leave the corporate world and hang out my own shingle (that is, I started my own solo law practice). From zero, I had to build a client base, establish a reputation and grow my expertise. I was locked in – focused on this dream – to have my own practice. I thought I knew exactly what was needed for this path … then I crossed paths with Amy. I now look back at that coffee meeting as one of the key decision points along the path to a successful practice.
Amy became an expert on Connie – on what holds me back, throws me off the path, how to get me back up again. I learned that an experienced eye would challenge me to set goals beyond what I could imagine, help me to recognize the real obstacles, and to accept my own success. It meant searching, pushing, learning new things. It meant setting goals, priorities and boundaries. I learned what set me apart from the herd. And I learned that there are no shortcuts.
I won’t tell you that I’ve arrived. But I will tell you is this – what I have accomplished from the earliest glimmer of both dreams is more than I could have ever asked or imagined. Because I listen to people who believe I am capable of more – who can imagine more.
So get out there. Be scared, but do it anyway. You have a promise to keep – a potential to meet – a best self to bring to the world.
The world needs your unique awesomeness.